![]() Mom died suddenly on May 7th, 2010, just days before Mother's Day and her 83rd birthday. I would have never been ready to say goodbye to my best friend. Today, I am, at least, grateful she did not suffer for even an instant. To me, Mom was ageless. While I acknowledge a physical decline in her last few years, mostly related to Parkinson's Disease and Rheumatoid Arthritis, mentally Mom was "sharp as a tack". Despite the personal sacrifice of giving up a college education to marry and raise four children, Mom was the best Mother I have ever known. She was totally "present" for us, through every phase of our lives, "the good times and the bad". She only asked that "we do our best". Mom always predicted that I would be a nurse or a teacher. Right again! I have done a bit of both in the course of my lifetime. In both arenas, I have seen many children and adults who have "never quite felt good enough". I try, whenever possible, to stress the individual's strengths and positive attributes to begin with; and we all have them! I find that, when people are comfortable enough to open up, their insecurity may, in fact, stem back to their childhood, from home or school. Consider this... "...everyone has special talents, and it is our duty to find them and use them well." As for me, I was so blessed to have the kind of Mom who wrote me these powerful words in a Journal, given to her by me in 2002: "My hopes and dreams and wishes for you then... I wanted you to be a happy, carefree little girl with no worries beyond being sure that your teddy bear was in your bed at night. I wanted you to be exposed to any learning experience, since you always had so much curiosity and needed to know "why", your favorite word. "And now... And now, I want you to have true peace and real happiness. You already have the foundation with a husband, pets and a home, bringing you love, companionship and contentment. I want you to slow down and do things just for yourself instead of always duty and chores." I believe these comforting, nurturing and maternal words are universal for anyone who is in need of a Mother's love. From a Friend - Remember MeWhen Mom died, a dear friend gave me this poem which I keep close by - reading often through the seasons of each year: Remember me when the flowers bloom Early in the spring Remember me on sunny days In the fun that summer brings Remember me in the fall As you walk through leaves of gold And in the wintertime - remember me In the stories that are told But most of all remember Each day - right from the start I will be forever near For I live within your heart (written by Judith Karen Bulock) Mom will live forever in my heart. She will forever be a guide and an inspiration. Sharing a song that reminds me of the opportunities we have to make each day - the best day ever (Andy's life motto) Cat Stevens: Morning Has Broken Today and every day, I wish you peace, acceptance of yourself and appreciation of the promise of each day.
Until next month, be happy and well, mar
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Dear Maria,
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Thanks, dear Vicki... you're right in that Mom left me a lifetime legacy. I love sharing her through my writings.
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Mike
3/20/2016 12:08:01 pm
Maria - You honor your Mother. She is lucky to have you and you are lucky to have her. She is still watching over you. Your history is filled with love and caring, it is evident that you share her loving heart.
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3/20/2016 04:11:09 pm
Dear Mar, how beautiful your mother's heart! I know she is with you every second of the day. We have so much to be thankful for this first day of spring. The sun is shinning and we celebrated Palm Sunday at church this morning. It brought Christ's life closer to me before his crucifixion. Stay well and happy my friend. Love and hugs. I loved the video. Thank you for being you. Tweeted..
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Maria....How sweet & lovely and perfect for the arrival of Spring when all is fresh & new! This is the ideal time for us to "remember." It's comforting to think back and know where we came from and who made it possible for us to be WHO & what we are today!
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Bill
3/21/2016 09:31:25 am
Beautiful thoughts, Maria. I had the same type of mother...how lucky can one man be? :)
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3/21/2016 01:52:24 pm
Prof. Mahreer,
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Jean SERRES
3/21/2016 02:00:45 pm
Thank you Maria, loved the message your mother had written for you. I found a little of my mom in her words. And, tears accompanied the poem and music. I appreciate you sharing.
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Spring does bring memories of our loved ones. Just yesterday I was telling someone about my own mother. Your mother was lovely, the epitome of Proverbs 31:10, "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies." Such women are rare and precious these days. Thank you for sharing her with us so we can love her also and know the mother who nurtured you so well that you are also a woman of love ad compassion.
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Dear Maria,
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crazyhorseladycx
4/11/2016 03:09:33 pm
howdy, ms. mar!
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Shauna
4/22/2016 12:44:15 pm
What a lovely poem, Mar. I see why you keep it nearby. It's simply beautiful.
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