![]() I'm teaching an online course this summer on the subject of Holistic Health to nurses who are pursuing their Bachelor's of Science in Nursing degree. The subject of self -care is incorporated in our discussion posts. It goes without saying that nurses are not able to totally care for others until they practice the same strategies on themselves. I've been asked by students and friends alike how I maintain my personal sense of balance in life. In other words: "How do I get everything done on time? How do I have time for everything?" As a nurse, I'm no stranger to critical analysis of most situations that I encounter - from the complex to the mundane. Like it or not - it's how most of us in the healthcare fields are wired...! In other words, is this 'you would not believe how perfect this project is for YOU and only YOU can do it justice...' project relevant, logical and significant in my life goals? I'm forever amazed at how many projects, favors and other contributions of my time have been proposed through the years. As such, I have become guarded, even selfish, with time. Because I enjoy the way that I choose to spend my day - both personally and professionally - my 'work' as a nursing instructor feels more like a passion than a position. In all work and personal commitments: 1. I have a calendar and prioritize my deadlines. I maintain ongoing communication for exceptions. I know that different styles work for others. I derive a sense of peace from organization and I'm old fashioned in my methods. I am challenged to learn the capacity of systems such as Evernote and am open to improving my current 'notepad system in the raw'. Sounds simple, but it boils down to 'whatever works'. If I make a promise, I will keep it or give notice as to why not / with plan of correction offered. 2. I will not bite off more than I can chew regarding assignments / promises. This becomes easier with each passing year. It used to be quite difficult for me to say 'no'. I placed extreme feelings of guilt on myself - to the point of becoming stretched quite thin at times. Mom taught me 'there are only so many hours in a day'. I'm teaching myself some of those hours must be preserved for ourselves and what we dream of pursuing. Every so often I work with a student who has enrolled in school at the wrong time in their lives. Reasons are varied including: stressful job; marital issues; family / child care issues; grief / loss / trauma. Adult education is exciting, yet not without its potential stressors of time demands, technology snafus and mastery of unfamiliar content. In times of stress, adding a college course can be 'the straw that broke the camel's back'. Self awareness and being gently honest with yourself is the best strategy. School will always be waiting for a time you are centered for learning. 3. My style is to plan ahead rather than back track. As I discover a goal in my life is to never be caught up (LOL), I'm finding this mindset works for me. I look to tomorrow, actually as far ahead as feasible, for broad planning. I jot ideas, goals, notes in calendars and notebooks as a 'brilliant' idea pops into my mind - as one never knows when these flashes of insight will strike...! So now I've shared my complicated and magical strategies with you...! As for, "How do I get everything done on time?" My calendar rules. I obey her every day. And as far as, "How do I have time for everything?" I do what I signed on for. Anything else is my pleasure and a sheer bonus...! Oh and I build in some time for music - dancing is even better...can't resist a little Janelle Monae: "Tightrope": Update on Mariah Fenton-Gladis, my mentor in Gestalt therapy... I wanted to share a recent article about Mariah in Social Workers Speak out of National Association of Social Workers (NASW). Many of you have been asking about the status of the upcoming documentary about Mariah and this gives an update: Film to Chronicle Social Worker’s Ability to Live Life to the Fullest with ALS Meanwhile in the Rest of Weeblyhood Until next week, wishing you peace, mar
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Shauna
8/5/2015 03:47:03 am
Mar, keeping a schedule is so important when you have many obligations/priorities. Not biting off more than you can chew is vital in keeping your word. Something we learn as we grow older.
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Dearest Maria
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Mike
8/5/2015 11:57:20 am
Hello Maria - There is no doubt in my mind that you overbook as a statedgy to get a lot done. You are busy, busy, busy with your students and your writing and that Andy fellow. But you make it work.
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Gail Sobotkin
8/5/2015 09:05:11 pm
Dear Maria,
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8/6/2015 09:29:46 am
How's that for timing? (Grin!)
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Vicki
8/6/2015 03:35:19 pm
Dear Maria,
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6/17/2017 06:42:06 pm
Hi Maria...
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Thanks for visiting this older post, dear Rolly. Your recent post on the value of time reminded me once more how much we have in common.
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6/19/2017 12:35:04 pm
Love this post. Love the balance you have set for yourself and the way in which you are gentle and honor your needs, too. Too often, we neglect ourselves - not in the 'I just went to the spa' sort of way, but in the 'I need to say no sometimes and I need to find balance.' The result is a society of people who feel they are not enough and don't do enough and are frazzled. This post speaks volumes to the balance - and self-care - we all need to survive and thrive. Lovely post! Sending hugs!
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Thanks for these validating remarks, dear Cynthia.
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