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Marcoujor: Kindness Does Not Discriminate

3/2/2016

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​Kindness is a word I hold near and dear...we all thrive and blossom with the slightest words ​ and​ gestures of kindness from others.

From a smile to a show of concern, kindness does not have to cost a thing.

Each day is a new opportunity for us to impact someone else's life.

We have the power to smile, to listen and to support those who are hurting in a variety of ways.

We have the ability at any time to choose kindness.

​Kindness Comes in Many Forms​

This past Sunday evening, my cousin, Eddie, from Augusta GA died from complications of pneumonia.  

​My cousin, Thomas, shared some fond memories. "​Eddie was a good guy and we did so many things together even into our late 30's ​. ​  All I had to do was call him about a trip somewhere and he was ready to go.  He  ​loved bowling in​ his 40's and 50's a few times a week.​"

If truth be told, Eddie was my partner-in-crime whenever the family visited Mom's people in Georgia.

He was about ten years older than me - funny, patient and not much of a talker.

We genuinely enjoyed hanging out with each other.  It was great not always having to talk - instead we walked, drove around and genuinely experienced stuff.  

When I was twelve years old, Eddie took me to see "Save the Tiger" on the big screen. This movie earned Jack Lemmon an Oscar for Best Actor in 1973...and me a 'sound talking to' from my dear Momma...as I think back, I suppose the content was a tad mature for a young gal like me.
​Jack Lemmon ​ stars in "Save the Tiger" as  Harry Stoner ​,​ caught between watching everything he has worked for ​ in an apparel company​ evaporate, or becoming another grain of sand in the erosion of the values he once held so dear. ​ 

Mind you, I discovered the movie's message many years later.  At the tender age of twelve, I was befuddled that I never saw an actual tiger...? Eddie didn't have an answer for me - but patiently allowed me to stay through final credits... for a possible glimpse that never happened.

In those simple and gentle times, I felt completely safe when in Eddie's company.  And the twinkle in Mom's eyes made me know she felt the same.

Eddie sent me a necklace for high school graduation with a #1 pendant.  At a most insecure time in my life, Eddie helped me feel special and treasured.

In his last years, Eddie struggled with early neurocognitive issues.  While he may have struggled with memory and perceptual issues, those family and friends who loved him will never forget this gentle, kind and sweet man.
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I look forward to meeting up with Eddie in the next dimension.  I want to interview him and finally hear 'his side of the story'...

For now, I send my cousins and southern friends love, prayers and thoughts from your cousins in Pennsylvania.
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Here is a favorite by Willie Nelson - Mom would approve and hoping ya'll do too.

Love you and hugs, Maria
20 Comments
Peg Cole link
3/2/2016 08:19:19 am

What a lovely collection of memories of a kind and thoughtful cousin. We never know what small gestures will stay with our relatives over the years. It is certain he had a positive impact on you. I'm so sorry for your loss, Mar. Losing family always hurts. Love to you on this beautiful spring day.

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:45:54 pm

Thanks, dear Peg - your words of comfort are sweet and appreciated.

Love and hugs to you too, Maria

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Vickster link
3/2/2016 09:12:00 am

Dear Maria,
Thank you for sharing these memories of Eddie's kindness towards you and others. He must have been a lovely and loving man. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Big hugs

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:47:14 pm

Eddie was lovely and loving, dear Vickster. Thanks for stopping by and hugs to you too, Maria

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Ruby Fuller link
3/2/2016 09:18:12 am

Memories of loved ones are precious. Eddy was the kind of person that reminds me of a brother long gone. It's a reminder for us all that kindness lives on even after we're gone. So sorry for your loss, but happy to read that your cousin hopes to see him again. I love Willie! Thank you for sharing. I love you. Hugs..

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:49:12 pm

Dear Ruby,
Thanks for your words of friendship - you are most insightful.
I thought you would love Willie's song as much as me.
Have a peaceful night. Love, Maria

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Mike
3/2/2016 12:21:35 pm

Hello mar. Sorry for your loss. You repay Eddie's kindness to you and others so well for remembering him with love, gentleness and kindness. You are an emissary of his teachings and an A student at that.

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:50:54 pm

What a beautiful comment, dear Mike - I will take that grade with pride from you - thank you.

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Shauna
3/2/2016 01:01:52 pm

Mar, I love the memories you have of Eddie. I'm sure the interview you conduct in the "other dimension" will be enlightening. I'm sorry you lost your cousin and friend; it's never easy.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

Lots of Love,
Sha

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:53:47 pm

So lovely to see you, dear Sha - My list of interviews in the next dimension is growing...I don't think I'll ever be bored.

Love you much,
mar

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Angelia Phillips link
3/2/2016 07:41:13 pm

Prof. Mahreer,
My sympathies for your family experiencing two recent losses. Your description and shared memories of Eddie are warm and sweet. I'm glad he left a smile in your heart as a part of his legacy.

Angelia

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Maria link
3/2/2016 07:56:39 pm

Dear Angelia,
As far as legacies go, leaving a smile in the hearts of others seems 'right up there'.
Thanks for your steadfast friendship and support.
Hugs, mar

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Shannon Henry
3/2/2016 08:52:13 pm

I have fond memories of my cousins as well that have lasted a lifetime. Sorry to hear of your loss, sweet Maria. Such a kind mind would certainly be proud of the kindness you share with the world around you. Kindness and love go hand in hand. If one fails in kindness, ti always returns whenever love is in the heart. It can never be gone long.

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Maria link
3/3/2016 06:06:57 am

Thanks for your wise and insightful comments, dear Shannon.

Have a peaceful day. Hugs, Maria

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Theresa
3/2/2016 09:33:11 pm

Dear Maria,

Thank you for sharing all about Eddie, your gentle and sweet cousin. I know you will always cherish those wonderful memories you and he had together. This has a beautiful message that we can all make an impact in another one's life simply by being there, listening and caring, even if just with a smile and showing kindness.

I'm sorry about your loss, who was such a blessing in your life.
Hugs, Theresa

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Maria link
3/3/2016 06:08:16 am

Yes, dear Theresa, you've captured what was so special about Eddie.

Sending you wishes for a blessed day. Love, Maria

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Martie link
3/3/2016 11:11:39 am

Death can take our beloveds away, but none of those lasting impressions they have made on us. In our hearts and mind they live forever. Condolences to you, dear Mar, and to all Edie's relatives and friends.

Hugs,

Martie.

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Maria link
3/15/2016 06:24:03 am

Wise and true words, dearest Martie. Thanks for your thoughts and kindness.

Love you much, mar

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Sannel link
3/4/2016 05:22:22 am

Dear Maria,

“Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind.” ~ Henry James.

Kindness, love and gentleness seems to be a character trait running in your family. I loved reading about your fond memories of Eddie, your kindhearted and sweet cousin and friend. What a lovely and thoughtful gift he gave you at a time you really needed reassurance. Just so you know, you always have and always will be #1, dear friend. :)
I'm so sorry for your loss, I know you miss him.
Thank you for sharing. Take good care!
Lots of love and hugs,
Sannel

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Maria link
3/15/2016 06:26:08 am

What a perfectly wonderful quote, dear Sannel.

Thanks for your words of support for my family and dear Eddie. You are beautiful inside and out... Love and hugs, Maria

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