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2/6/2017

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"Have a peaceful day."

​I find myself saying, writing, thinking and wishing for peace frequently through the day--for myself and those I interact with.

Every once in a while, however, I encounter someone who seems to have the opposite agenda.  I can feel my mind and body resisting this person, removing myself from their vicinity as soon as possible.

For the record, I have no interest in the purchase or endorsement of the 2017 Toyota Corolla. In fact, I'm quick to mute all commercials, usually filled with repetition and increased volume. This advertisement pulled me right in, no doubt due to the message in the song...

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​I understand that no one has the right to occupy a place in my mind, unless I give my explicit permission.

Administratively speaking, I have the right to fire someone from their insinuation into in my world. I have a choice as to whether an explanation is offered (or not) to this person.

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​There are times, however, that I need to remind myself of the very counsel that I offer to others.

This small, pocket-sized book by Barbara Ann Kipfer is filled with reminders, affirmations and suggestions on how to maintain my ongoing feeling of peacefulness.

​Here are a few tips that are helping me through a current situation. I tend to become preoccupied and distressed at the very idea of negativity, so these are helpful in bringing me back to my personal core of calm and peace:

⧫ Return to your breathing each time your mind wanders.

⧫ Whatever is not yours, abandon it.

⧫ Let go of the battle.

⧫ Keep the bigger perspective in mind, not getting caught in life's little whirlpools.

⧫ Remember that unpleasant feeling will pass. Notice rather than react.

⧫ You would have peace if you did not concern yourself with the sayings and doings of others.

⧫ When someone insults you or behaves violently towards you, you have to be intelligent enough to see that the person suffers from his or her own violence and anger.
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⧫ The world spins without your help, people do what they do, and your life will run its course one way or the other. You can decide not to get angry, upset or anxious about things over which you have no power. You can choose to live your life with integrity, compassion, mindful observance and a healthy sense of humor.

⧫ Enjoy the relaxation you feel when you retrain your mind and banish anger. Feel the inner spaciousness.
 
Each of these points is worthy of thoughtful contemplation. Each reminds me of my personal power to opt for peace, including the eviction of negative people from my mind and world.
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How about you?  I welcome any thoughts or strategies you employ in your pursuit of inner peace.

In closing, I also wanted to share the original song by Lesley Gore, You Don't Own Me.

ShoutOuts

☙ Dust Bunnies; All you never wanted to know... Via WarnerWords
☙ What is User Generated Content (USG)? Via molometer’s blog
☙ MustRead: Hacked Again by Scott Schober via flashPress

Until next week, be conscious of who you rent space in your head to!

Hugs,

mar​
22 Comments
Mike
2/8/2017 11:27:10 am

Hello mar - Your Wednesday musing is packed with wisdom. I am not sure everyone seeks inner peace. There are packs of menaces that roam around creating chaos. I guess the smart ones find a place in their heads and call it their own.

You may have to add philosopher to your list of credits.

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:12:41 am

I'm not sure my Philosophy Instructors from college would agree...but ever so kind of you to say, dear Mike.

I'm off today thanks to a snow fall from Mother Nature... wishing you a peaceful day.

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paula link
2/8/2017 02:32:08 pm

Maria, Nothing less than your infamous inspiration once again. I not only agree with you,my inner peace-loving amiga,I put in the effort. Unlike your generous self, however, I rarely attempt, these days, to pass on my secrets & discoveries.
Perhaps due to my several extra years & experienced mileage, I've arrived at a conclusion on degrees of willingness in others. As old an adage as it is, "You can lead a horse to water...but...."
I would love nothing better than to focus on your helpful list of tips and discuss with you for hours. I wish we had that opportunity. :(
Thank you, Maria, for your awesome musing and of course for adding one of my top favorite Oldies by Lesley Gore....Send me some of that unbridled energy of yours! Pls? Hugs, Paula

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:15:18 am

What a great comment, dear Paula... I am also a firm believer in that 'horse / drink' adage - yet my inner teacher has a need to share what works for me.

Sending love, hugs, and, yes, some energy to you. Maria

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Peg link
2/8/2017 02:38:26 pm

"Evicting negative people from our minds and world" at this point is a twenty-four hour job. It's tough to avoid the hate-filled messages which have become increasingly prevalent on social media, online sites and even in the news. It is beyond comprehension that we have become this angry with our fellow human beings. Your advice is sage and much needed in these times.

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:17:53 am

Yes, dear Peg...it is taking work and mindfulness to keep peaceful amidst such unrest and anger.

These days make me even more grateful for friends like you.

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Martie link
2/8/2017 03:27:57 pm

Dear Mar,

"When someone insults you or behaves violently towards you, you have to be intelligent enough to see that the person suffers from his or her own violence and anger."

This is so very true!


Those pocket-sized books filled with quotes and positive suggestions, are so precious. Important to keep them at hand.

It takes a lot of willpower and determination to prevent a negative person from entering your mind and soul. In the past I used to use harsh words to get them out of my mind. Words like "Fluck u, Satan!" Until my very religious sister told me that "Bless you, Satan!" was the right thing to say. I was surprise to learn that it was indeed the right thing to say, as 'bless you' triggers inner peace instead of that horrible feeling of despair. Try it!

Hugs,

Martie

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:25:29 am

Dear Martie,
It is amazing and rewarding at how changing our inner sound track can change our perspective to positivity - thanks for sharing your wise example.
Love and hugs, mar

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Genna East
2/8/2017 05:12:18 pm

These are sage words of wisdom, dear Maria, and at a time when we need them the most. Thank you for sharing you, my friend. :-)

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:26:30 am

Thank you, dear Genna - always a pleasure when you stop by.

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Ruby link
2/8/2017 06:04:13 pm

Dear Mar, I have had to make myself unavailable more than once lately. It is not easy to say " no " especially to a family member. Your philosophy is one to live by. Be blessed my friend. Hugs...

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Maria link
2/9/2017 10:27:46 am

You are healthy and beautiful, inside and out, dear Ruby.

Hugs and blessings to you too, mar

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Sannel link
2/9/2017 01:17:36 pm

Dear Maria,
Thank you for this post and your inspiring words of wisdom that are helping me through a trying period in my life.
Sending peace and love to you.
Hugs,
Sannel

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Maria link
2/10/2017 06:29:13 am

Sorry about this trying time, dear Sannel...but ever so glad this post was of some help.

Love you and hugs to Freddie too, Maria

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Dilon
2/9/2017 01:41:27 pm

My Precious Maria,

As usual you have said a mouth full with your poignant and powerful punch. And this is why I love you!!!! This is so true sometimes we need to fall back and take an account of who we have let into our personal realm. Everyone who is counter productive to what it is that you are trying to do has to move. I still love ya but I am zoning and I refuse to let you kill my vibe. What we don't realize is that it's okay to step off for a minute in order to get your mind right. But always first and foremost God said he that keeps his mind stayed on Me will be kept in perfect peace. I love you my darling keep posting.
Dilon

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Maria link
2/10/2017 06:35:24 am

Wise and insightful comments, dear Dilon...always such a pleasure to see you here.

Hope all is going well with you and hoping to see you soon.

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Angelia S. Phillips link
2/13/2017 05:32:06 pm

Prof. Mahreer,

I hope your head-space is filled with calming scenery, maybe lambs and butterflies (swiped from Dennis the Menace) or maybe some wagging puppy dog tails.

Your K9 crew probably provides exceptional tonic for the most jangled of vibes. That's why God made doggies and He keeps sending you some of the best He's ever created. 💖

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Maria link
2/16/2017 06:17:34 am

"Your K9 crew probably provides exceptional tonic for the most jangled of vibes. 💖 "

Oh yes, dear Ange, you are ever so right. A and Z keep my perspective in fine shape for sure.

Thanks for stopping by. Love you and hugs from me and the fur kids.

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Audrey Hunt
2/28/2017 07:41:10 pm

This is exactly what I needed. Great pearls of wisdom. I've given to much permission more times than I should No more! I feel empowered. Thank you.
Hugs,
Audrey

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Maria link
3/1/2017 08:49:30 pm

This is music to my ears - and from you, a beautiful melody indeed.

Love you and thanks for being YOU, Maria

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Shauna
3/9/2017 02:23:23 pm

Excellent post, Mar! Personally, I avoid negative people like the plague. Now that I'm older, I find I allow much more to roll off my back than when I was younger and more impressionable. I simply consider the source, realize their problem is with themselves - not me - and refuse to acknowledge the attack or insinuation. I find myself much less stressed these days.

I love the reference to "life's little whirlpools". Those three words are quite effective and worthy of reflection.

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Maria link
3/15/2017 08:42:24 pm

Oh Sha,

You and I think so very much alike... and I am ever so glad such a positive and upbeat lady like you is in my world.

I always appreciate your visits, as I know how busy your work schedule is. Love you lots, mar

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