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1/13/2015

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After publishing last week's edition of mar's Desk, a former student e-mailed me the following note:

Hi Maria,

Can you tell me more about Gestalt workshops?

Kindly, J



I realized that others might have the same question, so why not answer here in a follow-up on my desk?



Here goes ...


J,

I spent the weekend of January 2 - 4th, 2015 at the Temenos Retreat Center in West Chester, PA where I attended a Contemporary Gestalt Training Workshop that was led by Mariah Fenton Gladis, MSS, QCSW.  

This was the second Gestalt workshop I had ever attended.  While I am by far an expert on this kind of mind-body-spirit therapy, I can say that both weekends have made an impact with lasting personal healing and professional enrichment for me.

Everyone participating in a Gestalt experience, whether a weekend workshop or an exercise lasting an hour or so, has the capability of having an opportunity for self-awareness and healing.  For me, I had countless situations of universal comparison, where I could exercise my compassion and feel the compassion of others expressed onto me.

Gestalt Therapy is permission to be creative.

In a passage we read together, by Joseph C. Zinker, in a large group exercise, I learned that:

"Gestalt therapy is really permission to be creative.  Our basic methodological tool is the experiment.  The experiment moves to the heart of resistance, it changes and transforms rigidity into an elastic support system for the person.

"The experiment is a behaviorist approach of moving into novel functioning.  It may be used to help a person reach his blind polarities, his shadow, or to exaggerate his crazy behavior.  The experiment does not have to be heavy, serious or even precisely fitting - it can be theatrical, hilarious, crazy, transcendent, meta-physical, humorous.  The experiment gives us permission to be a priest, whore, holy man, wise witch, magician and all the things, beings and notions hidden within us. Experiments don't grow out of concepts - experiments may move from simple playfulness into profound conceptual revelations."
In one group, a simple Christmas carol was transformed into what felt like a Bachian choral work.  Its immediate impact was not even clearly appreciated by the therapist - participants but somehow they knew that they created something beautiful and transcendent of their own personal limitations.

Gestalt therapy is permission to be exuberant, to have grandness, to play with the nicest possibilities for ourselves within our short lives.  Experiment is powerfully effective in groups because it is supported by the varied creativeness of a total community.  No one person gets depleted and everyone is nourished.

Gestalt therapy is not the routine repetition of stale prayers of sundown.  It stands for all that is in front of me, for all that promises completeness of experiencing, for all things to come which are awesome, frightening, tearful, moving, unfamiliar, archetypal, growth-ful.  It means the full embrace of life - the savouring of all its subtle tastes."
PictureMom (Miss Sammie) and I
For me,  I carried the grief of Mom's death into this recent workshop - not realizing others had the grief of parents and other loved ones they had lost with them as well. 

I experienced.  I felt.  I witnessed brave men and women who were called to the Hot Seat with Mariah, just as I had been in June of 2013.  There were two situations that dealt with grief surrounding the death of one's parent.

Both were different in circumstances - the age and manner in which loved ones had left, yet feelings of grief, sadness, even anger were shared by many of us.

As others experienced healing and catharsis, I found myself having similar feelings - coupled with gratitude that I was not alone in my feelings.  And after these Hot Seat experiences, we were able to process / discuss as a group, learning and gaining benefit from each other.

Mariah led a discussion where she spoke about the void that is left in us, no matter what age our parents leave us.  There is a natural tendency to replace this void over time -- to create our own internal mother and father for ourselves.  This is where we have the power and the self - expression... We can create the kind of parents that we want to be for ourselves.  And we have the ability to seek out other figures in our life that can serve roles (parts of the roles) of a parent for us.

This discussion hit home for me.  I took so much into my heart from it.  I acknowledge that my internal mother is my very own Miss Sammie.  I know that Mom has never truly left me.  How could she really... her lessons and influences on me are hard core.  If I listen closely, I can even hear Miss Sammie's words coming out of my mouth...and I feel her strength when I need it most.

The other day I got some gut wrenching news about a friend who is in her final days.  I tried my best to remain strong while I was on the phone, because my heart is breaking for sj's friend as well.  My radio was playing quietly in the background as it always does while I'm working ... 

After hanging up, all my emotions surfaced and I started bawling like a little girl who had lost her teddy bear.  The radio started playing Georgia on My Mind...

My daily inspirational quote on this day was, 
You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can be grateful that thorn bushes have roses.

Tom Wilson
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Miss Sammie, my beautiful Georgia peach, loved roses best of all flowers.  I felt surrounded by Mom's love, comfort and strength by these signs of her presence - thus making my internal mother even more able to support and love those who are important to me.


So, in answer to your excellent question, J, I believe that everyone who attends a Gestalt workshop will leave with different impressions.  These are some of my reflections.


Over the weeks to come, I will share even more as thoughts, questions or possibilities for discussion cross my desk.




Before you go...

Here are some interesting reads in the Weeblyhood you won't want to miss:

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Until next Wednesday, please be peaceful and take good care of yourself.

Hugs, 

mar
24 Comments
kimmie
1/14/2015 01:33:21 am

Hello Sweet friend
I always feel like I have recieved a warm hug when I read your blog...to be honest any time I have encountered Maria. The work shop sounder wonderful and I can not imagine a place where one can open up their heart so completely...just letting go and being real. I do believe our Georgia peaches do share a sweetness that we both have been blessed to encounter. I truly believe their presence will forever be with us. Sending all my love.
Kimmie

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Vicki
1/14/2015 01:47:04 am

Dear Mareer,
This is a lovely explanaration of gestalt workshops. So glad you were able to attend it, and your heartfelt understanding and expression of how you sum it up is just so beautiful too. I truly hope you will carry the happiness of it all as you continue to move through life in your own special and unique way. You are a lovely, positive example to all.
Love and hugs

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:01:39 pm

Dear Vicki,

Thanks for stopping by with such a supportive and heartfelt comment.

I am excited to start my new semester with some of the strategies I've learned - hoping to share some of this self-discovery with my students as well.

Have a peaceful evening. Love and hugs, Maria

Maria link
1/14/2015 11:58:10 am

Dear Kimmie,

What a very sweet comment and yes, this is the kind of workshop where you can indeed 'let go and be real' - I'm happy whenever friends are able to do so here in the comment section as well.

I do believe our Georgia peaches have added much sweet wisdom to our lives - how blessed we both are. Love and hugs, Maria

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femmeflashpoint link
1/14/2015 02:26:16 am

Prof. Mar,

I love how you incorporated the information exchange here to a friend, which allows your fans to gain knowledge from it as well. Chances are, if one of your readers wanted further information about Gestalt, others did as well.

Beautiful job here on not only explaining and promoting it but also for a depthy look at how you've benefited from it professionally and personally.

femme

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:05:40 pm

Dear femme,

I have always thought that if one person had a question, it was likely others had the same question as well... This seemed like an excellent opportunity to elaborate a bit more - glad you agree!

Thanks for all you do -- all the time! Love and hugs, mar

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Shauna L Bowling link
1/14/2015 02:30:19 am

Mar, these workshops sound like such soul-healing, soul-revealing experiences. I love that there are no rules and no parameters, just a free flow of feelings.

Your mother's spirit is so strong in your life. From the rain as you travel, to Georgia On My Mind when your heart hurts, Miss Sammie is always there to soothe your soul and wrap your heart in her love.

Very awesome!

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:12:40 pm

"Soul-healing and soul-revealing" is a wonderful way of expressing what these workshops have done for me, dear Sha. Yes, I believe I am best suited for therapeutic work that is free, expressive and without a set structure.

It's wonderful to feel Mom's strength and presence...and thank you for your ongoing support and friendship, dear friend.

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Ruby link
1/14/2015 03:08:29 am

I'm listening to Ray as I type. Your post is beautiful and inspirational. It must be wonderful to be able to express anger and find release. I still miss my mother and look at her picture daily. I've thought often that thearpy would be good for me. I still have difficulty forgiving myself for not forgiving my husband Jack of infidelity, thus causing him to commit suicide. I have moved on and do not dwell on it, but it remains in my psyche. I find that writing is a great release as well. The picture of you and Miss Sammie is so sweet. Take care my friend. Your writing is awesome.

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:18:53 pm

Dear Ruby,

You've shared so much in your comment and I thank you for allowing yourself to identify what weighs on you, at least from time to time. I'm so glad that writing is a catharsis for you...I'm going to e-mail you over the next couple days as well. Love and hugs, Maria

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Martie link
1/14/2015 03:48:25 am

Dear Mar, I think Gestalt Therapy is a wonderful development in psychology, allowing people to express their true thoughts and emotions in a creative way, as they wish. It gives one the opportunity to spit it all out and to even lose control without fearing that awful feelings of shame and guilt. I checked out some websites in South Africa, and saw that it also known as "Play Therapy" down here and a very successful method to treat the causes of a child's psychological disorders. Thanks for sharing your experience! My heart goes out to you and your sister, and all who are currently involved in a dear friend's departure. Love you lots :)

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:23:59 pm

Dear Martie,

How wonderful that these strategies are being used with children in the form of "Play Therapy"...there are teachers in the US who use Gestalt exercises in the classrooms as well - in the pursuit of connecting our feelings to our behaviors and actions.

Thank you for your ongoing support and love during these sad days.
Love you so much, mar

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Theresa
1/14/2015 05:36:41 am

Dear Maria, Thank you for sharing here about such fascinating therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and your experiences. I know when we are going through our darkest times, our minds tend to overtake us with what we would think as bizarre or even frightening thoughts that one would dare not want to share with anyone for fear of being judged. However, these are the very thoughts that should be feely expressed no matter what to begin the healing process. Not only thoughts but acting out behavior that is not our norm. How freeing would that be? Very! I am thrilled to now know of this Gestalt Therapy and so glad your student asked the question. I am so sorry about your friend, sweetie. I hope that all of our Georgia Peaches of Mothers have met for I know they would all love each other, as their daughters love one another. Thank you for another beautiful post. Love you, Theresa

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:27:56 pm

Dear Theresa,

There is a beauty and freedom in Gestalt Therapy of not feeling judged for any thoughts or expressions - yes, my friend, you have described this beautifully.

I do believe our "peaches" are the best of friends...thanks again for the flowers, smiles and friendship that you give me all year long.

Love you too, Maria

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Paula link
1/14/2015 10:36:49 am

Maria, my lovely funny-face girlfriend.....I know I said this before, but I'd have loved to be involved with your workshop..Have decided to do some extensive research on Gestalt Therapy. Who knows....I may find a group nearby that meets now and then.
It sounds very much like something I could most definitely benefit from.....or at least, that would be my hope. I've carried such all-consuming grief for so many decades, in all honesty, I simply don't recall "Life Before Grief." It's more than a part of me...it's beyond within me. It IS me.
I love your writing. It's brilliant, genius, moving, inspirational, entertaining, educational........You're the whole package, Mama!

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:34:24 pm

What a powerful comment... "I've carried such all-consuming grief for so many decades, in all honesty, I simply don't recall 'Life Before Grief.' It's more than a part of me...it's beyond within me. It IS me."

Oh my, how I wish I could connect you to Mariah...but at the very least, I'm so happy you are doing extensive research in your area.

Love you and YOUR whole package, my dearest Paula!

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Sunshine
1/14/2015 10:48:15 am

A warm hug indeed! Miss Sammie lives on in you MM. In the process more and more people are learning about the power of love. ❤️

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Maria link
1/14/2015 12:07:57 pm

Dear Sunshine,

What a beautiful thing to say! I love you so much, you strong and courageous lady...keep shining! BIG hugs, MM

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Pamela Oglesby
1/14/2015 12:43:51 pm

Dear Maria, I enjoyed reading the details about the Gestalt workshop, but you are always so genuine that your writing always makes me feel like I am just sitting and listening to a good friend talk to me. You have a unique way of writing that touches me, You are so down to earth, and I am so glad that I have met you through our writing.
God bless. Pam

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Maria link
1/16/2015 12:44:07 pm

Dear Pam,

I love when you stop by and cannot thank you enough for such warm feedback about my writing. I really want folks to feel comfort and support when they take the time to visit.

Wishing you a peaceful weekend. Much love, Maria

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Mike
1/14/2015 04:08:48 pm

Hello mar. Thank you for sharing this. You seem to have benefitted from your joining this group and now you are sharing the experience with your readers. Your presentation is enlightening and the comment section has become a group therapy all of its own.

Into each of our life's sadness creeps. We all face the demons in our own way.

OK, group hug.

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Maria link
1/16/2015 12:46:13 pm

Nice segue into a group hug, Mr. Friedman...and I can use one right about now...

Your words are both wise and comforting, as are you. Thank you.

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Peg link
1/15/2015 01:24:32 am

Exercising compassion, how like you that is. This sounds like the sort of cathartic release needed to cleanse our hearts of much of the pain we internalize. You've described it in such a way that makes others want to try this therapy and that people feel comfortable in sharing their deep feelings of loss, anger and other happiness threatening emotions that need to be purged. As always, your love for others shines through. Love you, P

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Maria link
1/16/2015 12:49:45 pm

Dear Peg,

You always 'cut to the chase' in your comments with such precision and insight. And we all do share these feelings at some point in our lives...how healing to be able to give and receive compassion to and from others we meet along life's journey.

Love you, peace and hugs, Maria

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